Sunday, May 18, 2008

Natural Highs

1. Being Fuss' Grandma

2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.

3. A long hot shower.

4. No lines at the supermarket

5. A special glance from that special someone

6. Getting real mail.

7. Taking Gloria on a drive on a pretty road.

8. Hearing your favorite song on the radio.

9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.

10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.

11. Chocolate milkshake (vanilla or strawberry).

12. A bubble bath surrounded by candles and music.

13. Giggling.

14.  Being in love

15. Driving though the Blue Ridge and Smoky  mountains.

16. Finding a 20 dollar bill in your coat from last winter.

17. Laughing at yourself.

18. Looking into their eyes and knowing they Love you

19. Midnight phone calls that last for hours.

20. Running through sprinklers.

21. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.

22. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.

23. Laughing at an inside joke with FRIENDS

24. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.

25. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep.

26. Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner).

27. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.

28. Playing with Princess.

29. Having someone play with your hair.

30. Sweet dreams.

31. Hot tea, made just the way I like it.

32. Road trips with my Mom.

33. Swinging on swings.

34. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.

35. Making chocolate chip cookies.

36. Having your friends send you homemade cookies.

37. Holding hands with someone you care about.

38. Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change.

39. Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much desired present from you.

40. Watching the sun rise or set.

41. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.

42. Knowing that somebody misses you.

43. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.

44. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think.

45. Princess' delight when I come through the door, or wake up in the morning



Be blessed

Yesterday


My cousins @ my place
Christmas 2007
Sean - 22
Karen - really old
Nicky - 12
Barry - slightly older



I managed to get one whole kitchen cabinet packed up. My choice of packing material--contractor weight-- plastic bags. They can then be used for taking clothes to the goodwill later, not to mention trash and storing comforters in the summer.  Only 1,042 sq feet more to pack. Did I mention I'm moving next Saturday.  I've taken procrastination to an art form.  Heck instead of packing right now, I'm blogging.

I went by Karen & Barry's house, to drop off a pair of beautiful shoes for Karen to wear to Sean's wedding. Well an hour's visit turned into an evening of fun and laughter. 
We also gave a mini concert of Sam Cooke, Frank Sinatra, the Temptations, Brooke Benton and a few others.  OK the beer added to the frivolity on my end, and Karen's rum & coke boosted her vocal stylings.

A friend of mine came by and we went to house of pies. By the time we got back to Karen's the beer was a memory, and I was ready to drive myself home.

Nothing like hanging out with nutty family. I'm blessed to have these particular nuts nearby.

Hoping yo are as blessed

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Tips for Better Life

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. Buy a DVR and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.

4. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, 'My purpose is to __________ today.'

5. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

6. Play more games and read more books than you did in 2007.

7. Make time to practice meditation, and prayer.
They provide us with daily fuel for our b usy lives.

8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.

9. Dream more while you are awake.

10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

11. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds & walnuts.

12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

13. Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.

14. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, OR issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

15. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

16. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.

17. Smile and laugh more. It will keep the NEGATIVE BLUES away.

18. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: 'In five years, will this matter?'

26. Forgive everyone for everything.

27. What other people think of you is none of your business.

28.REMEMBER GOD heals everything.

29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

30. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

31. Ge t rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

32. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

33. The best is yet to come.

34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

35. Do the right thing!

36. Call your family often. (Or email them to death!!!)

37. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: I am thankful for __________. Today I accomplished _________.

38. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

39. Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.

Monday, May 12, 2008

Pretty Dressed-Up Baby


Fuss wore a dress for Mother's Day...Lord I love my Grandbaby







Be blessed

I forgot!

To post the pictures from my birthday party!






Fuss in all her drooly wonder

She thinks Nicky's shirt sleeve taste great!

Just hanging out with Grandma and Daddy!


Saturday, May 10, 2008

My faith

I would say the two people who have had the most profound influence on my spiritual life is my Nana and my cousin Lesle.

My Great Grandma Agnes Stephenson's faith was a tangible thing to me from a young age. I remember a few times spending Sunday in church. Holy Sanctified. Ya'll ain't had no "chuch" unless you've been one of those services. Think that's where I got my love of bringing-down-the-walls-of-Jericho, gospel music. She was the first one to really instill in me that no mater what is going on in my life, God's got His arms around me. When I first heard this song, I thought of Nana.

I remember being in labor with JB, and hearing it over and over again in my head. Maw was there with me, but so was my Nana, she was letting me know that no matter what was happening right now, come the morning, all would be right. Nana never lied to me!






Next at bat was my cousin Leslie Ann Jones. One day I'm going to be able to sit down and write about our history. Today's not one of them, the hole left by her passing hasn't even begun to heal yet. Suffice it to say that no matter how much pain she was in, she'd shake herself loose and go at life full throttle. A year before she passed, we had a good talk, there were no words left unspoken, no laughter not shared, no memories we didn't rehash. I am a blessed one. I got to tell her what was in my heart, she shared her own with me.

Les, I'm still doing what you told me, and I miss you terribly my friend.

Happy Mother's Day Ma

Wednesday, May 07, 2008

This cracks me up

Happy Baby


Standing in for Grandma today

We had such a good time that Grandma didn't really mind sitting on the patio with me at 1am because my tummy was gassy.  She rubbed it, cuddled, kissed and hugged me until I was able to get to sleep.  She also nibbled my toes, blew on my tummy and made funny faces.

I think she's a little sleepy so I wrote this for her.  

I am,
~~Grandma's Fuss~~

Another year older

Celebrated the 47th anniversary of my birth by working organizing my contacts on my computer. I'm still adding a few here and there, but believe you me, I will be burning a cd of this information just in case.

Took a good look around and decided that there are things that I will be changing in the not to distant future. One of the things I will be doing is getting rid of a high maintenance person in my life. For some reason my personal choices cause them great angst ... mind you this person is not a personal friend of mine.

The other thing I'm changing is my address. I'm also looking forward to getting my passport so I can add a few trips to Mexico and Canada in the coming year.

I'm certain there are more changes on the horizon ... some planned some not planned.

I'm just glad I'm here to experience them.

Stay blessed,
~~Cee...Level~~

Thursday, May 01, 2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!



JB and his Grandma 8th grade graduation


to my Mom.

May God double your blessings from this day forward.

Love you

Maw!

That's Life!

Nine years ago this July I moved to TX from NYC.   Things were really tight for a while, but thanks to help from my Mom, and the Census, along with my regular job, I was able to get started.

Some changes in my life include:
Losing my best friend  (and cousin) Leslie
Paying off the IRS
Gaining 104 lbs
Seeing my son graduate high school
Losing my Aunt Nellie
Becoming a Grandma
Various life changes, some good, some not so good.

All in all, as I sit on my patio in my nightshirt, enjoying the stars and the dog barking down the block, life is good.

I'm blessed, hope you can say the same,

~~Cee...Level~~


Sunday, April 27, 2008

RIP and my heartfelt thanks, Spc. Joshua A. Molina

Paula Fredrickson was sleeping on the living room couch when her younger brother woke her up to say goodbye. The 20-year-old soldier was on his way back to Iraq at the end of a three-week visit to Houston in January.

"I was going to get up and give him a hug and he said, 'No, just stay there. I'll see you again,'" remembered Fredrickson, 27. "I told him, 'Don't be a hero. Just do what you have to do and come back safe.'"

That was the last time she saw him alive.

Her brother, Spc. Joshua A. Molina, died in Baghdad on Thursday from injuries he suffered when his vehicle encountered an improvised explosive device. Molina was assigned to the 1st Squadron, 2nd Stryker Cavalry Regiment in Vilseck, Germany. His tour of duty in Iraq was scheduled to end in November.

Born and raised in the Houston area, Molina joined the Army Jr. ROTC at Bellaire High School. When the family moved to Alief, Molina transferred to Elsik High School. He enlisted after graduating in 2005.

He wanted to be a soldier since he was a little kid, said his younger brother Manuel Molina. "He just liked to play war."

Molina never planned to spend his career in the Army. He wanted to enroll in college in 2009. Some day, he told his family, he would like to work as a Border Patrol or FBI agent.

"He was a good kid and doing what he wanted to do," Fredrickson said. "At least he accomplished one of his dreams. And he paid the ultimate price."

Molina deployed to Iraq for the first time last summer. Before he shipped out, he visited his family in Houston in June.

"He disappeared for two hours the day he had to leave. When he finally came home he was crying and he said, 'I don't want to go,'" Fredrickson recalled. "He was just scared because he didn't know what he was getting into."

Molina's brother-in-law Rope Fredrickson, a Marine, told the young soldier not to worry. Everyone's afraid the first time they ship out to a combat zone, he said.

The family kept in touch through e-mails and phone calls.

"He only told me the good things. He never wanted to tell me the bad things," Manuel Molina said. "He told me, 'I'm just doing my job and patrolling the street.'"

The brothers last spoke on the telephone Monday. "He wished me a happy birthday and I just told him that I love him and I'll be praying for him," said Manuel Molina, who turned 20 on Tuesday.

"We were all so proud of him and even though we didn't like him being over there, we were still proud because he was giving us the freedom that we have in this country," he said.

It was midnight on Thursday when the doorbell rang at the Molina family's southwest Houston house.

"I saw the two soldiers standing there and all I could say was 'no,'" Fredrickson said. "I wanted to tell them they had the wrong house, but I couldn't get the words to come out of my mouth."

In addition to his younger brother and older sister, the soldier also leaves behind parents Maria and Josue Molina and an older brother, Henryk Baldizon, 34.

Still in shock, Fredrickson says she won't really believe her brother is gone until she sees his body.

Both sports nuts, the siblings played pickup basketball at their neighborhood park and watched football games together, sometimes betting on them for fun.

"He lost a lot of money on the Super Bowl," Fredrickson said, laughing. "Me and him were really close. I didn't just lose a brother, I lost a really good friend."

If you're reading this....Tim McGraw

Yep more Charlie!










Friday, April 25, 2008

Starting one's own business

Is more than a notion.  There are so many things that need to be done before you can even think of ordering your business cards.

Yep, in this year of change, I'm finally launching my business.  Many factors have contributed to this decision.
  1. Job I don't like
  2. price of gas
  3. construction tie ups
  4. 25 years of working to make a corporation rich
My goal is not to be the next Bill Gates, just to live comfortably and more on my own terms.  I'm looking forward to being my own boss. Let's see how this turns out.

Entrepreneur-ly yours,

~~Cee...Level

Sunday, April 20, 2008

My all time favorite joke is:

A few minutes before the services started, the townspeople were sitting in
their pews and talking.  Suddenly, Satan appeared at the front of the
church.  Everyone started screaming and running for the front entrance,
trampling each other in a frantic effort to get away from evil incarnate.

Soon everyone had exited the church except for one elderly gentleman who
sat calmly in his pew without moving, seeming oblivious to the fact that
God’s ultimate enemy was in his presence.

So Satan walked up to the old man and said, “Don’t you know who I am?”
The man replied, “Yep, sure do.”

“Aren’t you afraid of me?” Satan asked.
“Nope, sure ain’t,” said the man.

“Don’t you realize I can kill you with a word?” asked Satan.
“Don’t doubt it for a minute,” returned the old man, in an even tone.

“Did you know that I could cause you profound, horrifying, physical AGONY…
for all eternity?” persisted Satan.
“Yep,” was the calm reply.

“And you’re still not afraid?” asked Satan.
“Nope.” More than a little perturbed, Satan asked, “Well, why aren’t you
afraid of me?”

The man calmly replied, “Been married to your sister for over 48 years.”



I freely admit to laughing like I've never heard it before. Yes I may need to get a prescription for that, but it's still funny. I bet you KD and my cousins would say "Sounds like Granpa," because nothing could throw him, and he always had an answer for everything.  I miss you Granpa.  

Church Bulletins....I love 'em

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The Fasting & Prayer Conference includes meals.
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The sermon this morning:
"Jesus Walks on the Water."
The sermon tonight:
"Searching for Jesus."
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Our youth basketball team is back
in action Wednesday at 8 PM in the
recreation hall. Come out and
watch us kill Christ the King.
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Ladies, don't forget the rummage sale.
It's a chance to get rid of those things
not worth keeping around the house.
Bring your husbands.
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The peacemaking meeting scheduled
for today has been canceled due to a conflict.
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Remember in prayer the many who are sick
of our community. Smile at someone who is hard to
love. Say "Hell" to someone who doesn't care
much about you.
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Don't let worry kill you off -
Let the Church help
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Miss Charlene Mason sang
"I will not pass this way again,"
giving obvious pleasure to the congregation.
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For those of you who have children
and don't know it,
we have a nursery down stairs.
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Next Thursday there will be tryouts for the choir.
They need all the help they can get.
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The Rector will preach his farewell message after
which the choir will
sing: "Break Forth Into Joy."
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Irving Benson and Jessie Carter
were married on October 24 in the church.
So ends a friendship that began in their school
days.
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At the evening service tonight, the sermon topic
will be "What Is Hell?"
Come early and listen to our choir practice.
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Eight new choir robes are currently needed
due to the addition of several new members
and to the deterioration of some older ones.
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Scouts are saving aluminum cans,
bottles and other items to be recycled.
Proceeds will be used to cripple children.
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Please place your donation in
the envelope along with the deceased
person you want remembered.
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The church will host an evening of fine dining,
super entertainment, and gracious hostility.
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Potluck supper Sunday at 5:00 PM -
prayer and medication to follow.
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Ladies Bible Study will be held
Thursday morning at 10 AM. All ladies
are invited to lunch in the
Fellowship Hall after the B. S. is done.
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The pastor would appreciate it if the ladies
of the congregation would lend him their
electric girdles for the pancake breakfast next
Sunday.
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The Low Self Esteem Support Group
will meet Thursday at 7 PM. Please use the back
door.
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The eighth-graders will be presenting
Shakespeare's Hamlet in the Church
basement Friday at 7 PM .
The congregation is invited to attend this
tragedy.
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Weight Watchers will meet at 7 PM
at the First Presbyterian Church.
Please use large double door at the side entrance.
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The Associate Minister unveiled the church's
new tithing campaign slogan last Sunday:
"I Upped My Pledge - Up Yours

We are family!!












Trevor and some of my family from our last gathering two years ago.

I am soooo looking forward to seeing my family in June. It's not often we get together, since we are scattered hither and yon, and prices for any type of travel are beyond reason when more than one person has to make the jaunt.

My cousin Sean is getting married! I'm so happy for him that I can barely contain myself. He and his bride to be are settling down not to far from us, so we'll have the pleasure of adding one more to our Saturday night movie watching and/or board game playing sessions.

Only downside is my 12 year old cousin Trevor won't be attending. My Uncle Alex suffered a stroke last year and we figured he and my Aunt Darcel would have challenges in coming. However, we were looking forward to Trevor being allowed to come and "hang" with his family. Unfortunately his parents have nixed that idea. Too bad, we don't get to see him often, and he really doesn't know us at all. He'll miss out on family togetherness, as well as meeting Fuss, and Senitra's family, and we'll be deprived of his company.

My cousins Jason and Leida won't be there either.  Jason for some unknown reason, and Leida because she has an exam.  Since they're grown, they know us, so although they'll be missed, it's not the same as not having Trev there.

He's a hoot! He's adorable, funny, smart, and well I just love him to pieces. I'm going to keep praying that his parents will change their mind, and let us buy his ticket Chicago. Heck even Fuss is getting on a plane and she'll only be 5 months old!



Let It Flow

I've discovered that my dream job is a nightmare. My spirit was so unhappy there, that everything was becoming tainted. Within the next 60 days, I'll have a new position within the same company, and with God's grace, it'll be something that both challenges and is satisfying to my soul.

I'm also working on launching my business. Wow, me, a successful business owner, who while not Bill Gates rich, won't be doing to shabby. Yep, think positive, claim positive, live positive. Let it flow.

Moving, something I didn't think I would do until I purchased my residence. However, since I don't use 1/2 the apartment, and I never intended to bring my clients here, I can live with smaller. Besides y'all know I despise housecleaning. Having less space not to clean suits me just fine. Nope I've not yet found a replacement housekeeper, nor have I called the other one. Anyone who comes to visit can attest to that : D Another positive is my washer/dryer is about to bring happiness to another family member. My cousin is about to move into his new place, which doesn't offer machines. My son and I live in units that have full sized machines. Woooo Hoooo, definitely a win, win. Now if I can just convince them (his bride to be and he) that they really do need a 4 poster king sized cherry wood bed frame...

I love my life! I've divested myself of those who mean me no good, and am lucky enough to say that I've still a large extended family. Yes there are times I get down, and times I get frustrated with situations and people, but that's what keeps me appreciative of the good. Hoping you can say the same.

Peace be with you,

~~Cee...Level~~~

Saturday, April 19, 2008





Laughing, and growing...that's my Fuss


HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!

Catherine Barbara Agnes Whitten-Michael.

Aunt Bob-Doo to my cousins and I.

Richard Pryor & Johnny Carson

Friday, April 18, 2008

Changes

Don't know what came over me, but I'm changing jobs AND downsizing my living quarters. Yuck, the prospect of moving again is horrifying, but the thought of paying all this money for the same apartment is even more horrifying.

Besides the newer apartments were updated, and I like how they look. I've never lived in a townhouse with a loft bedroom. Should be exciting eh?

Hmmm have to find a space for C-Jae and her "things"

Job change is something that I've been considering for a while. Trying to decide whether to launch my new business or just go on working for someone else.

I'm hoping that I am on the road to the change I want to become.

Be safe,

Cee...Level

Wednesday, April 02, 2008

Psalm 37

1 Do not fret because of evildoers,
Be not envious toward wrongdoers.

2 For they will wither quickly like the grass
And fade like the green herb.

3 Trust in the LORD and do good;
Dwell in the land and cultivate faithfulness.

4 Delight yourself in the LORD;
And He will give you the desires of your heart.

5 Commit your way to the LORD,
Trust also in Him, and He will do it.

6 He will bring forth your righteousness as the light
And your judgment as the noonday.

Sunday, March 30, 2008

Hindsight is always 20/20

shoulda, woulda, coulda....three words that cause people more grief in their lives and those of their loved ones.

Here's hoping that from this day forward you don't ever have to think them, much less speak them.

~~Cee Level~~

So Fuss and I were half asleep



and the TV was on low in the background. It was the movie "in her shoes", not a stellar movie. When you're holding a sleepy but fussy baby, you don't want to take a deep breath much less root around for the remote control.

I loved this poem read by Cameron Diaz, and written by ee cummings.

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
i fear no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

Since I'm not by any stretch of the imagination, a fan of poetry, I was surprised I liked it.

Got me to thinking of other types of poetry....songs that mean something to me when it comes to children....mine, yours, any one's.

If I could sang by Nancy Wilson or Regina Bell
I hope you dance sang by Lee Ann Womack

Children are a precious gift...do what you can to keep them safe.

So blessed,

~~Cee...level~~

Saturday, March 29, 2008

Lest We Forget: An open letter to my sisters who are brave.

Lest We Forget: An open letter to my sisters who are brave.
The author argues that we must build alliances not on ethnicity or gender, but on truth.
TheRoot.com
Updated: 6:17 PM ET Mar 27, 2008
March 27, 2008

I HAVE COME home from a long stay in Mexico to find – because of the presidential campaign, and especially because of the Obama/Clinton race for the Democratic nomination - a new country existing alongside the old. On any given day we, collectively, become the Goddess of the Three Directions and can look back into the past, look at ourselves just where we are, and take a glance, as well, into the future. It is a space with which I am familiar.

When I was born in 1944 my parents lived on a middle Georgia plantation that was owned by a white distant relative, Miss May Montgomery. (During my childhood it was necessary to address all white girls as "Miss" when they reached the age of twelve.) She would never admit to this relationship, of course, except to mock it. Told by my parents that several of their children would not eat chicken skin she responded that of course they would not. No Montgomerys would.

My parents and older siblings did everything imaginable for Miss May. They planted and raised her cotton and corn, fed and killed and processed her cattle and hogs, painted her house, patched her roof, ran her dairy, and, among countless other duties and responsibilities my father was her chauffeur, taking her anywhere she wanted to go at any hour of the day or night. She lived in a large white house with green shutters and a green, luxuriant lawn: not quite as large as Tara of Gone With the Wind fame, but in the same style.

We lived in a shack without electricity or running water, under a rusty tin roof that let in wind and rain. Miss May went to school as a girl. The school my parents and their neighbors built for us was burned to the ground by local racists who wanted to keep ignorant their competitors in tenant farming. During the Depression, desperate to feed his hardworking family, my father asked for a raise from ten dollars a month to twelve. Miss May responded that she would not pay that amount to a white man and she certainly wouldn't pay it to a nigger. That before she'd pay a nigger that much money she'd milk the dairy cows herself.

When I look back, this is part of what I see. I see the school bus carrying white children, boys and girls, right past me, and my brothers, as we trudge on foot five miles to school. Later, I see my parents struggling to build a school out of discarded army barracks while white students, girls and boys, enjoy a building made of brick. We had no books; we inherited the cast off books that "Jane" and "Dick" had previously used in the all-white school that we were not, as black children, permitted to enter.

The year I turned fifty, one of my relatives told me she had started reading my books for children in the library in my home town. I had had no idea – so kept from black people it had been – that such a place existed. To this day knowing my presence was not wanted in the public library when I was a child I am highly uncomfortable in libraries and will rarely, unless I am there to help build, repair, refurbish or raise money to keep them open, enter their doors.

When I joined the freedom movement in Mississippi in my early twenties it was to come to the aid of sharecroppers, like my parents, who had been thrown off the land they'd always known, the plantations, because they attempted to exercise their "democratic" right to vote. I wish I could say white women treated me and other black people a lot better than the men did, but I cannot. It seemed to me then and it seems to me now that white women have copied, all too often, the behavior of their fathers and their brothers, and in the South, especially in Mississippi, and before that, when I worked to register voters in Georgia, the broken bottles thrown at my head were gender free.

I made my first white women friends in college; they were women who loved me and were loyal to our friendship, but I understood, as they did, that they were white women and that whiteness mattered. That, for instance, at Sarah Lawrence, where I was speedily inducted into the Board of Trustees practically as soon as I graduated, I made my way to the campus for meetings by train, subway and foot, while the other trustees, women and men, all white, made their way by limo. Because, in our country, with its painful history of unspeakable inequality, this is part of what whiteness means. I loved my school for trying to make me feel I mattered to it, but because of my relative poverty I knew I could not.

I am a supporter of Obama because I believe he is the right person to lead the country at this time. He offers a rare opportunity for the country and the world to start over, and to do better. It is a deep sadness to me that many of my feminist white women friends cannot see him. Cannot see what he carries in his being. Cannot hear the fresh choices toward Movement he offers. That they can believe that millions of Americans –black, white, yellow, red and brown - choose Obama over Clinton only because he is a man, and black, feels tragic to me.

When I have supported white people, men and women, it was because I thought them the best possible people to do whatever the job required. Nothing else would have occurred to me. If Obama were in any sense mediocre, he would be forgotten by now. He is, in fact, a remarkable human being, not perfect but humanly stunning, like King was and like Mandela is. We look at him, as we looked at them, and are glad to be of our species. He is the change America has been trying desperately and for centuries to hide, ignore, kill. The change America must have if we are to convince the rest of the world that we care about people other than our (white) selves.

True to my inner Goddess of the Three Directions however, this does not mean I agree with everything Obama stands for. We differ on important points probably because I am older than he is, I am a woman and person of three colors, (African, Native American, European), I was born and raised in the American South, and when I look at the earth's people, after sixty-four years of life, there is not one person I wish to see suffer, no matter what they have done to me or to anyone else; though I understand quite well the place of suffering, often, in human growth.

I want a grown-up attitude toward Cuba, for instance, a country and a people I love; I want an end to the embargo that has harmed my friends and their children, children who, when I visit Cuba, trustingly turn their faces up for me to kiss. I agree with a teacher of mine, Howard Zinn, that war is as objectionable as cannibalism and slavery; it is beyond obsolete as a means of improving life. I want an end to the on-going war immediately and I want the soldiers to be encouraged to destroy their weapons and to drive themselves out of Iraq.

I want the Israeli government to be made accountable for its behavior towards the Palestinians, and I want the people of the United States to cease acting like they don't understand what is going on. All colonization, all occupation, all repression basically looks the same, whoever is doing it. Here our heads cannot remain stuck in the sand; our future depends of our ability to study, to learn, to understand what is in the records and what is before our eyes. But most of all I want someone with the self-confidence to talk to anyone, "enemy" or "friend," and this Obama has shown he can do. It is difficult to understand how one could vote for a person who is afraid to sit and talk to another human being. When you vote you are making someone a proxy for yourself; they are to speak when, and in places, you cannot. But if they find talking to someone else, who looks just like them, human, impossible, then what good is your vote?

It is hard to relate what it feels like to see Mrs. Clinton (I wish she felt self-assured enough to use her own name) referred to as "a woman" while Barack Obama is always referred to as "a black man." One would think she is just any woman, colorless, race-less, past-less, but she is not. She carries all the history of white womanhood in America in her person; it would be a miracle if we, and the world, did not react to this fact. How dishonest it is, to attempt to make her innocent of her racial inheritance.

I can easily imagine Obama sitting down and talking, person to person, with any leader, woman, man, child or common person, in the world, with no baggage of past servitude or race supremacy to mar their talks. I cannot see the same scenario with Mrs. Clinton who would drag into Twenty-First Century American leadership the same image of white privilege and distance from the reality of others' lives that has so marred our country's contacts with the rest of the world.

And yes, I would adore having a woman president of the United States. My choice would be Representative Barbara Lee, who alone voted in Congress five years ago not to make war on Iraq. That to me is leadership, morality, and courage; if she had been white I would have cheered just as hard. But she is not running for the highest office in the land, Mrs. Clinton is. And because Mrs. Clinton is a woman and because she may be very good at what she does, many people, including some younger women in my own family, originally favored her over Obama. I understand this, almost. It is because, in my own nieces' case, there is little memory, apparently, of the foundational inequities that still plague people of color and poor whites in this country. Why, even though our family has been here longer than most North American families – and only partly due to the fact that we have Native American genes – we very recently, in my lifetime, secured the right to vote, and only after numbers of people suffered and died for it.

When I offered the word "Womanism" many years ago, it was to give us a tool to use, as feminist women of color, in times like these. These are the moments we can see clearly, and must honor devotedly, our singular path as women of color in the United States. We are not white women and this truth has been ground into us for centuries, often in brutal ways. But neither are we inclined to follow a black person, man or woman, unless they demonstrate considerable courage, intelligence, compassion and substance. I am delighted that so many women of color support Barack Obama -and genuinely proud of the many young and old white women and men who do.

Imagine, if he wins the presidency we will have not one but three black women in the White House; one tall, two somewhat shorter; none of them carrying the washing in and out of the back door. The bottom line for most of us is: With whom do we have a better chance of surviving the madness and fear we are presently enduring, and with whom do we wish to set off on a journey of new possibility? In other words, as the Hopi elders would say: Who do we want in the boat with us as we head for the rapids? Who is likely to know how best to share the meager garden produce and water? We are advised by the Hopi elders to celebrate this time, whatever its adversities.

We have come a long way, Sisters, and we are up to the challenges of our time. One of which is to build alliances based not on race, ethnicity, color, nationality, sexual preference or gender, but on Truth. Celebrate our journey. Enjoy the miracle we are witnessing. Do not stress over its outcome. Even if Obama becomes president, our country is in such ruin it may well be beyond his power to lead us toward rehabilitation. If he is elected however, we must, individually and collectively, as citizens of the planet, insist on helping him do the best job that can be done; more, we must insist that he demand this of us. It is a blessing that our mothers taught us not to fear hard work. Know, as the Hopi elders declare: The river has its destination. And remember, as poet June Jordan and Sweet Honey in the Rock never tired of telling us: We are the ones we have been waiting for.

Namaste;

And with all my love,

Alice Walker

Cazul

Northern California

First Day of Spring

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

10 weeks




Guess who is ten weeks old and counting.  Yep my very own second generation of sunshine.  Wow!!  It seemed like Alyssa's pregnancy lasted forever, but Fuss' life is going by at the speed of light.

My plan for the next few evenings is to snuggle with this little angel, listen to her laughter, and  just be lifted buy this amazing gift that God has given this family.

So blessed  ~~~Cee...Level

Personal Mission Statements

I've been thinking about this writing one for myself for a while. Prior to PDA's I was an avid user of the the Franklin Planner. It would talk about the purpose of mission statements and how to incorporate them into your life. Of course, I didn't pay attention then.

A few of the things that I learned is that a mission statement forces you to think about life, not just the superficial but the substantial. It should also clarify the purpose of your life.

It forces you to express in a concise method, your deepest values and goals

Your values and goals are supposed to be an integral part of you rather than something you only think about occasionally.


Also, it's supposed to be part of you daily/weekly/monthly plan, so its always in front of you.

Whew, sounds like I've bitten off a lot. Now I just have to figure out how to start. Gonna have to do some research on this.

Cee...level

Monday, March 17, 2008

Who's ^%$+@ Idea Was Daylight Savings?

It takes me a good month to get myself together after we fiddle with the clock.   Until that day, I'm a wreck.  I either over sleep or don't sleep,  Arrive early or extremely late.  

My meals times are off and even my dog seems to have issues with the time she gets walked.

Ugh!

OH BABY!!!




Here's my little beauty.  She's 9 weeks old and it's early on a Saturday morning...and I do mean EARLY.  However, since she woke up laughing and smiling, I didn't really notice the time

Sunday, March 16, 2008

It's already been 2 months!!



I've been a Grandma for two months; or if you prefer 9 weeks and 2 days. Time is really flying. She's such a sweetie. Very active, and alert, and already "talking" up a storm.

This Grandma gig just gets better and better.

Lethargic

That would explain how I've been feeling since the holidays ended. I do little projects, but don't complete them. My home could use a really good cleaning, and I need to start leaving it more on the weekends.

Anyone else have that feeling? Aside from Fuss, I'm not motivated to do anything outside of work and sleep.

I'd write more, but I'm just not feeling up to it. Actually I'm going to head over to the nursery and get a few plants for the house. Maybe seeing something different will inspire me to do the spring cleaning. On second thought, I'm going to call my former housekeeper and see if he'll do my spring cleaning for me.

Giving up my weekly allowance $75
Using my weekly allowance to have the house cleaned...priceless

Saturday, March 15, 2008

I'm having a love affair

Yep, I admit it. Tried to remain true, but you know how it is when what yo have at home isn't satisfying your needs.

At first it was a little hint, here and there. Then when things didn't improve, I straight up had the talk. Came out and quoted a few lines of a song that was running through my head. Sorry I can't give credit to the song writer.

You gonna make make me love somebody else
if you keep on treatin me the way you do
i dont want to do
you gonna make make me love somebody else
if you keep on treatin me the way you do
i dont want to do

i done nothing to you
i just love you with my heart and soul
every time i need some lovin
you just turn cold
i aint dumb i aint stupid
i know you need love
need love like i do
cause if aint lovin me
i want to know who in the world are you lovin
tell me you dont need me around


Still to no avail. Just didn't pay attention to me. So you see it really wasn't my fault. I had to do it.

I screwed up my courage, took a deep breath and went for it.

I bought a mac.

What did you think I meant?

~~Cee...Level~~~

Thursday, March 06, 2008

Rest in Peace Pooh Bear 3/1/2008









One of my girls has changed her address to the Rainbow Bridge. I know she's eating all the snackus she can handle and sleeping in the softest of beds. Princess, JB, Alyssa and I miss you greatly, but knowing you're no longer in pain makes it a bit more "bear"able.

Luvis you my beary Bear,

Mommy

“Why Sit Ye Here and Die?”

Thank you GF Claire for posting this to our list.

Maria W. Stewart (1803-1879) was one of the first American women
to leave copies of her speeches. The address below is her second
public lecture. It was given on September 21, 1832 in Franklin
Hall in Boston, the meeting site of the new England Anti-Slavery
Society. Although as an abolitionist, she usually attacked
slavery, in this address she condemns the attitude that denied
black women education and prohibited their occupational
advancement. In fact she argues that Northern African American
women, in term of treatment, were only slightly better off than
slaves.

Why sit ye here and die? If we say we will go to a foreign land,
the famine and the pestilence are there, and there we shall die.
If we sit here, we shall die. Come let us plead our cause before
the whites: if they save us alive, we shall live—and if they
kill us, we shall but die.

Methinks I heard a spiritual interrogation—'Who shall go
forward, and take off the reproach that is cast upon the people
of color? Shall it be a woman? And my heart made this reply —'If
it is thy will, be it even so, Lord Jesus!'

I have heard much respecting the horrors of slavery; but may
Heaven forbid that the generality of my color throughout these
United States should experience any more of its horrors than to
be a servant of servants, or hewers of wood and drawers of
water! Tell us no more of southern slavery; for with few
exceptions, although I may be very erroneous in my opinion, yet
I consider our condition but little better than that. Yet, after
all, methinks there are no chains so galling as the chains of
ignorance—no fetters so binding as those that bind the soul, and
exclude it from the vast field of useful and scientific knowledge.
O, had I received the advantages of early education, my ideas would, ere now,
have expanded far and wide; but, alas! I possess nothing but moral capability—no teachings but the teachings of the Holy spirit.

I have asked several individuals of my sex, who transact
business for themselves, if providing our girls were to give
them the most satisfactory references, they would not be willing
to grant them an equal opportunity with others? Their reply has
been—for their own part, they had no objection; but as it was
not the custom, were they to take them into their employ, they
would be in danger of losing the public patronage.

And such is the powerful force of prejudice. Let our girls
possess what amiable qualities of soul they may; let their
characters be fair and spotless as innocence itself; let their
natural taste and ingenuity be what they may; it is impossible
for scarce an individual of them to rise above the condition of
servants. Ah! why is this cruel and unfeeling distinction? Is it
merely because God has made our complexion to vary? If it be, O
shame to soft, relenting humanity! "Tell it not in Gath! publish
it not in the streets of Askelon!" Yet, after all, methinks were
the American free people of color to turn their attention more
assiduously to moral worth and intellectual improvement, this
would be the result: prejudice would gradually diminish, and the
whites would be compelled to say, unloose those fetters!

Though black their skins as shades of night, Their hearts are
pure, their souls are white.

Few white persons of either sex, who are calculated for any
thing else, are willing to spend their lives and bury their
talents in performing mean, servile labor. And such is the
horrible idea that I entertain respecting a life of servitude,
that if I conceived of there being no possibility of my rising
above the condition of a servant, I would gladly hail death as a
welcome messenger. O, horrible idea, indeed! to possess noble
souls aspiring after high and honorable acquirements, yet
confined by the chains of ignorance and poverty to lives of
continual drudgery and toil. Neither do I know of any who have
enriched themselves by spending their lives as house-domestics,
washing windows, shaking carpets, brushing boots, or tending
upon gentlemen's tables. I can but die for expressing my
sentiments; and I am as willing to die by the sword as the
pestilence; for I and a true born American; your blood flows in
my veins, and your spirit fires my breast.

I observed a piece in the Liberator a few months since, stating
that the colonizationists had published a work respecting us,
asserting that we were lazy and idle. I confute them on that
point. Take us generally as a people, we are neither lazy nor
idle; and considering how little we have to excite or stimulate
us, I am almost astonished that there are so many industrious
and ambitious ones to be found; although I acknowledge, with
extreme sorrow, that there are some who never were and never
will be serviceable to society. And have you not a similar class
among yourselves?

Again. It was asserted that we were "a ragged set, crying for
liberty." I reply to it, the whites have so long and so loudly
proclaimed the theme of equal rights and privileges, that our
souls have caught the flame also, ragged as we are. As far as
our merit deserves, we feel a common desire to rise above the
condition of servants and drudges. I have learnt, by bitter
experience, that continual hard labor deadens the energies of
the soul, and benumbs the faculties of the mind; the ideas
become confined, the mind barren, and, like the scorching sands
of Arabia, produces nothing; or, like the uncultivated soil,
brings forth thorns and thistles.

Again, continual hard labor irritates our tempers and sours our
dispositions; the whole system becomes worn out with toil and
failure; nature herself becomes almost exhausted, and we care
but little whether we live or die. It is true, that the free
people of color throughout these United States are neither
bought nor sold, nor under the lash of the cruel driver; many
obtain a comfortable support; but few, if any, have an
opportunity of becoming rich and independent; and the
employments we most pursue are as unprofitable to us as the
spider's web or the floating bubbles that vanish into air. As
servants, we are respected; but let us presume to aspire any
higher, our employer regards us no longer. And where it not that
the King eternal has declared that Ethiopia shall stretch forth
her hands unto God, I should indeed despair.

I do not consider it derogatory, my friends, for persons to live
out to service. There are many whose inclination leads them to
aspire no higher; and I would highly commend the performance of
almost any thing for an honest livelihood; but where
constitutional strength is wanting, labor of this kind, in its
mildest form, is painful. And doubtless many are the prayers
that have ascended to Heaven from Africa's daughters for
strength to perform their work. Oh, many are the tears that have
been shed for the want of that strength! Most of our color have
dragged out a miserable existence of servitude from the cradle
to the grave. And what literary acquirements can be made, or
useful knowledge derived, from either maps, books or charm, by
those who continually drudge from Monday morning until Sunday
noon? O, ye fairer sisters, whose hands are never soiled, whose
nerves and muscles are never strained, go learn by experience!
Had we had the opportunity that you have had, to improve our
moral and mental faculties, what would have hindered our
intellects from being as bright, and our manners from being as
dignified as yours? Had it been our lot to have been nursed in
the lap of affluence and ease, and to have basked beneath the
smiles and sunshine of fortune, should we not have naturally
supposed that we were never made to toil? And why are not our
forms as delicate, and our constitutions as slender, as yours?
Is not the workmanship as curious and complete? Have pity upon
us, have pity upon us, O ye who have hearts to feel for other's
woes; for the hand of God has touched us. Owing to the
disadvantages under which we labor, there are many flowers among
us that are…born to bloom unseen, And waste their fragrance on the desert
air.

My beloved brethren, as Christ has died in vain for those who
will not accept of offered mercy, so will it be vain for the
advocates of freedom to spend their breath in our behalf, unless
with united hearts and souls you make some mighty efforts to
raise your sons, and daughters from the horrible state of
servitude and degradation in which they are placed. It is upon
you that woman depends; she can do but little besides using her
influence; and it is for her sake and yours that I have come
forward and made myself a hissing and a reproach among the
people; for I am also one of the wretched and miserable
daughters of the descendants of fallen Africa. Do you ask, why
are you wretched and miserable? I reply, look at many of the
most worthy and interesting of us doomed to spend our lives in
gentlemen's kitchens. Look at our young men, smart, active and
energetic, with souls filled with ambitious fire; if they look
forward, alas! what are their prospects? They can be nothing but
the humblest laborers, on account of their dark complexions;
hence many of them lose their ambition, and become worthless.
Look at our middle-aged men, clad in their rusty plaids and
coats; in winter, every cent they earn goes to buy their wood
and pay their rents; their poor wives also toil beyond their
strength, to help support their families. Look at our aged
sires, whose heads are whitened with the front of seventy
winters, with their old wood-saws on their backs. Alas, what
keeps us so? Prejudice, ignorance and poverty. But ah! methinks
our oppression is soon to come to an end; yes, before the
Majesty of heaven, our groans and cries have reached the ears of
the Lord of Sabaoth [James 5:4]. As the prayers and tears of
Christians will avail the finally impenitent nothing; neither
will the prayers and tears of the friends of humanity avail us
any thing, unless we possess a spirit of virtuous emulation
within our breasts. Did the pilgrims, when they first landed on
these shores, quietly compose themselves, and say, "the Britons
have all the money and all the power, and we must continue their
servants forever?" Did they sluggishly sigh and say, "our lot is
hard, the Indians own the soil, and we cannot cultivate it?" No;
they first made powerful efforts to raise themselves and then
God raised up those illustrious patriots WASHINGTON and
LAFAYETTE, to assist and defend them. And, my brethren, have you
made a powerful effort? Have you prayed the Legislature for
mercy's sake to grant you all the rights and privileges of free
citizens, that your daughters may raise to that degree of
respectability which true merit deserves, and your sons above
the servile situations which most of them fill?

Sources:

Speech delivered at Franklin Hall, Boston, September 21, 1832.
The full text appears in Marilyn Richardson, Maria W. Stewart:
America’s First Black Woman Political Writer (Bloomington:
Indiana University Press, 1987), 45-49.
Copyright 2007 - BlackPast.org | blackpast@blackpast.org |

One of my favorite songs

One for my baby....and one for the road

I love her cover of this song


Tuesday, February 19, 2008

What on earth


...is she thinking about here? Charlie-Jae seems to be wondering if her parents are serious about all this fuss.





Her mom and dad dressed her up for Valentine's day. Even the shoes say I love Daddy. However her facial expression seems to be saying, I think Daddy and Mommy need a night off.

Just wanted to post these pictures as they are amongst my favorite. I think I'll have the second one framed and put on the wall.

Be blessed,
~~Cee.....Level~~

Monday, February 18, 2008

Beginning a new week



My baby and his baby on Valentine's Day...2008

So I didn't get to see Ms. Fuss, but it was entirely my call. I was tired, and more than a little discouraged and didn't want to bring that to the party.


I still can't believe that I'm a Grandma! This little person has my heart wrapped around her tiny perfect little finger. How can such a little person hold so much power? We jump to it when she's fussy, we laugh when she smiles, we beg for "just one more burpus", and we always have to get that one last kiss in.

Sunday was here, and Ms. Fuss came and took over with a vengence. She slept in the middle of my bed and then opened her eyes to look around. The grunting started (ummm no they don't gurgle in the beginning) the hands and feet started waving and she continued the conversation she started with the ceiling fan last week.

She and I went into the kitchen to warm a bottle, and she looked at everything, taking it all in. Aaaaah the fun is about to begin. Remember sense of wonder your children had when they were little? As a Grandma I now get to enjoy it all again, as my little one embarks upon exploring the world.

The Girls (my doglets) on the other hand, don't look as happy about the eventuality of her walking, and touching as I do. They sniff her when she comes in. One goes on her bed, the other, sits sentry by the playpen, ready to dash into the closet at a moment's notice. They come out of hiding when she's asleep and look at me as if to say "why on earth would you bring that pup into the house....she doesn't even have fur!"

Sunday's are good days for me. My grand daughter comes to visit, her parents come to dinner in the evening, and we all end up laughing, joking and enjoying each other's company.

It's a perfect way to begin the week.

Be blessed,

~~Cee...Level~~

Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Grandma-land is wonderful

This is my ticket into Grandma Land. It's wonderful here. I get to hug and love this precious baby and then...you guessed it...send her home to her parents and have a great night's sleep.

Getting to Grandma Land is not easy. First you have to have and raise children in Mommy Land. It's only if you survive that fun house, and your children aren't major head cases, that you start to dream about Grandma Land.

It's important that you realize that sometimes the entrance is not thru a doorway that you would have particularly chosen. However, don't let that dissuade you. Once you're inside, it's a magnificient place to be.

Be blessed,

Cee...Level